Help! Im getting heckled by my brother.

[EDM95]

I have alot of things bottled up inside.
Some times I just get mad a any little thing.

 

[xioca]

I have alot of things bottled up inside.
Some times I just get mad a any little thing.

haha start your own thread I'm sure we'd all chime in

 

[sparco431]

^^^^^haha i second that

 

[sparco431]

hahaha wait and you wrestle?!?!?!?! why dont you guys just take this to the mat!!!! ]


what weight class??

 

[pj91gsx]

btw its a good thing your not bottling this all up inside and your venting but maybe you should try venting to your parents and telling them exactly what your telling us

I already have, they have talked to him. It works for a little while, maybe a week or 2. I just need to hang up signs "no heckling". I like to wear my ear protection when Im in the garage so I can just walk off because he will think I wont hear him but I really do.. I could keep you guys updated on what he says each time he comes home. but that would make this a long thread. I need to revise a school paper then if I have time Ill make signs for the garage.

 

[sparco431]

yea the ear protection thing sounds like a good idea, but it seems to me like that would just piss him off even more. but if its working keep at it and for sure get at those signs

 

[WIDSM]

You said your bigger and stronger than him. Just because he's older doesn't mean you have to take his shit, just punch him in the dick.

 

[pj91gsx]

That is his car in the garage. Maybe he isnt happy because he doesnt have a car to drive too. Today he told me how it was my fault that my dads van's carpet is stained. He drove it back to school instead of my car. The transmission is going bad. He claims the carpet is all my fault but 2 years ago, he took turns hard and spilled my new battery and the battery acid ate threw the carpet, he forgot to mention that was his fault.

 

[sparco431]

you gotta get that piece of shit out of there and get your dsm on that

 

[xioca]

you bastard you have a lift!

 

[Lofty]

you bastard you have a lift!

and to think I don't even have jacks

 

[pj91gsx]

you gotta get that piece of shit out of there and get your dsm on that

Lol.

you bastard you have a lift!

Yea the heckler wanted it so he got it. I didnt care, I was happy to have a place to work on my car, which now Im still outside . My brother and I got yelled at a lot the week of putting that lift in. It wasn't so bad because I wasn't the only one getting yelled at. The heckler got the forklift stuck 4 times, and blamed me and my brother for it.

and to think I don't even have jacks

Didnt your car come with a jack?

 

[EventsCo21XL]

You know what. You need to stop cleaning up after him and also not helping him out unless he starts being nice to you. If you can afford it, just buy a carport and put it on the side so you can work on your car and not worry about having a garage.

I see you bought your own tools, so keep them away where he can't find them and don't use anything he owns. This way he can't bi*** about his tools going missing or being misplaced because you don't use them. If he bitches at you for not helping him or stealing his stuff, just say that you a grown man about to get married and to "Handle your own shit, quit being an idiot and be more responsible about your things" The thing is that if you keep letting him push you around, he's gonna keep doing it.

If push comes to shove, let him make the first move and if he actually does, then you beat the #### out of him. I had to do that to my older brother before. You might actually get into trouble for this, but no one has the right to do that crap to you, no matter who it is. I'm pretty sure your parents instilled that in you

Let him work on his own car and you work on your own. You might need the cash, but that's why you go and get a job if you don't have one already. Keep your own set of tools, supplies, liquids and storage units for all the things for your car. Don't avoid him, just don't let him bother and push you around. Lock your stuff up whenever you're not home and he is.

Also about his attitude changing because of getting married, he chose to do that so that's no excuse for the change in attitude. He knew what he was getting into, so if that's the case, tell him to quit bitching and taking shit out on everyone.

Now I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but maybe the reason for the attitude change came is because of Meth. Reason why I say this is because I went through a similar situation with my brother. Same situation that you are in right now. That's why I can fully relate with you. If he stays up all night, gets irritable real quick, cares less about his hygeine and just seems to not care about shit, this might be the cause. College does crazy things to people. This is not to say anything bad about your family, just sometimes outside influences make things crazy sometimes.

Good luck and I hope that I don't offend you or anyone with what I just typed, just some things I've observed and seen from the posts in this topic from the OP.

 

[pj91gsx]

You know what. You need to stop cleaning up after him and also not helping him out unless he starts being nice to you. If you can afford it, just buy a carport and put it on the side so you can work on your car and not worry about having a garage.

I see you bought your own tools, so keep them away where he can't find them and don't use anything he owns. This way he can't bi*** about his tools going missing or being misplaced because you don't use them. If he bitches at you for not helping him or stealing his stuff, just say that you a grown man about to get married and to "Handle your own shit, quit being an idiot and be more responsible about your things" The thing is that if you keep letting him push you around, he's gonna keep doing it.

If push comes to shove, let him make the first move and if he actually does, then you beat the #### out of him. I had to do that to my older brother before. You might actually get into trouble for this, but no one has the right to do that crap to you, no matter who it is. I'm pretty sure your parents instilled that in you

Let him work on his own car and you work on your own. You might need the cash, but that's why you go and get a job if you don't have one already. Keep your own set of tools, supplies, liquids and storage units for all the things for your car. Don't avoid him, just don't let him bother and push you around. Lock your stuff up whenever you're not home and he is.

Also about his attitude changing because of getting married, he chose to do that so that's no excuse for the change in attitude. He knew what he was getting into, so if that's the case, tell him to quit bitching and taking shit out on everyone.

Now I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but maybe the reason for the attitude change came is because of Meth. Reason why I say this is because I went through a similar situation with my brother. Same situation that you are in right now. That's why I can fully relate with you. If he stays up all night, gets irritable real quick, cares less about his hygeine and just seems to not care about shit, this might be the cause. College does crazy things to people. This is not to say anything bad about your family, just sometimes outside influences make things crazy sometimes.

Good luck and I hope that I don't offend you or anyone with what I just typed, just some things I've observed and seen from the posts in this topic from the OP.

He is not on Meth. If he was his feionce would know about it. I dont need to lock up my tools. I just keep them in my car, all put away and all still there. I never leave until they are all there and put away. They are all the tools I have that belong to me. This is my brothers 1st girlfriend and now feionce. He has been dating her for 2 years I guess. The car port sounds like a good idea. I dont have a job, except for the side jobs I take and the car parts I sell. I was planning to get a job, but if I do I will have to cram in a full engine rebuild and installation for my volvo, and my rebuild and body work for my eclipse. I want both done before I go to college.

 

[Lofty]

Lol.

Yea the heckler wanted it so he got it. I didnt care, I was happy to have a place to work on my car, which now Im still outside . My brother and I got yelled at a lot the week of putting that lift in. It wasn't so bad because I wasn't the only one getting yelled at. The heckler got the forklift stuck 4 times, and blamed me and my brother for it.

Didnt your car come with a jack?

Lol, yeah I definitely use that scissor jack to go under my car.....

 

[pj91gsx]

Lol, yeah I definitely use that scissor jack to go under my car.....

If you have one, then all you need are jack stands, If you dont have one, I can send you the one from my parts car.

 

[Lofty]

If you have one, then all you need are jack stands, If you dont have one, I can send you the one from my parts car.

No, I don't need one, I usually slide under my car because I'm so damn skinny anyhow.

 

[ricktb]

hey man I have a brother and this is exactly what I've gone through, trust me its childish and isn't based on anything rational.. its typical for bros to fight, like a dominance thing.. I also find that the brother with less self esteem seems to have more to bi*** about. ESPECIALLY when girls are near . You gotta stand your ground and if you think its unfair you tell him and look him in the eye and don't back down, but stay calm and never disrespect him or his stuff or his lady, then maybe he will respect you back. Here a suggestion maybe offer to help him get his work done in trade for helping you get yours done. If all else fails maybe you gotta get your own place. peace

oh yea another thing about sharing a garage, always put the tools away and clean up after your projects. You know the other brother won't do that and thats why I can't share a garage. Where the hell is my 10mm socket

 

[pj91gsx]

hey man I have a brother and this is exactly what I've gone through, trust me its childish and isn't based on anything rational.. its typical for bros to fight, like a dominance thing.. I also find that the brother with less self esteem seems to have more to bi*** about. ESPECIALLY when girls are near . You gotta stand your ground and if you think its unfair you tell him and look him in the eye and don't back down, but stay calm and never disrespect him or his stuff or his lady, then maybe he will respect you back. Here a suggestion maybe offer to help him get his work done in trade for helping you get yours done. If all else fails maybe you gotta get your own place. peace

oh yea another thing about sharing a garage, always put the tools away and clean up after your projects. You know the other brother won't do that and thats why I can't share a garage. Where the hell is my 10mm socket

He told me to work on his car, so he expects me to work on his car. He wants people to serve him. He will learn when he gets out in the real world. He already started looking at what kind of new car he wants because his feionce is becoming a doctor. I want a car port. i think it is the way to go. I want the get rid of all of the dsm stuff I have after I get my car together I have way to much extra parts. 2 of somethings and 3 of somethings. I sell some of it too.

 

[EventsCo21XL]

Hey man, I hope I didn't piss you off with my last post. I just wanted to see how you were doing man. Hopefully you're feeling better

 

[Defiant]

It's a relationship thread.

Or, it was.