Living with women...

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Been dating this women for about 2 months. She lives alone. Has her own apartment. I'm 21, she is 23. We talked about me moving in.

So, how is it like living with a chick. I have had MANY room mates that are guys. Constant drinking, messy, car's... and so on.

But now I might be stuck sleeping in a bed with pink sheets and rufflesWTF

Should I go through with it?

 

[98eclipseRS]

Well what's your situation now? I have lived with my fiance for almost two years now and it has been great. There has been some less than stellar times but for the most part everything has been great. Its nice to come home to someone and not having to be by yourself all the time. As for how the apartment looks, eh as long as I have a tv/comp then I could care less if the walls were purple with fusia(sp?) polka-dots.

 

[LQAddict]

Women... you meant a woman .
But anyway keep it the same - Constant drinking, messy, car's... and so on.

 

[robs90tsi]

Questions:
1.Do you love her enough to put up with her everyday?
2.Can you be around her for long periods of time and not want to strangle her?
3.Does she like your car, well do you love cars and like to work on your car and does she understand that?
4.Does she understand that your car was there before her and needs some lovin too?
5.Is she understanding, not super clingy and need constant attention?
6.Can you see yourself with her for a very long time?

And the maker or breaker.....does she KNOW your DSM isnt just a ricer?

 

[4BangR-x]

DON'T DO IT. Think about it, you want to go out with your friends, she will be mad. You want to work on your car, she will be mad. You want to watch "THE GAME" at your place, she will be mad. Life as you know it will be a living hell. I'm about the same age as you, have a serious girlfriend, and would NEVER consider moving in with her. Its to early, and too many more good times to be had, that COULD be hindered by a live in girlfriend.

Not to mention, what if you end up breaking up. Its going to be a huge pain in the ass moving all your crap back out. And god forbid you get a lease together...

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Situation:

-Been together for little over 2 months.
-She is a Nurse at local Hospital
-She works three 12 hours nights during the week
-I work Mon-Fri 8am-5pm
-I spend every weekend with her
-I spend 2 nights of the week with her
-I can sit at her apartment ALL day, for 2-3 days with her with no problem
-She knows about my car's and my truck
-I ride BMX professionally and own my Bike Co, she know's and understands all of my friends

All and all...She is freaking awesome. She loves going to bars with me, watches me ride, comes to car/truck shows with me. And loves to sit around, watch tv and drink beer with me...

Thus the reason why I want to move in with her.

 

[juddsgsx]

If you do so it won't last more than 2 months maybe 1. /

 

[leet]

Well, if she supports what you do, go for it. Not saying it will always be peachy, but there's a lot more ups than downs.

Wow, that coming from me. I need a lobotomy.

 

[robs90tsi]

^^^^^^ The first half of what he said, if shes everything you want, then do it, not the lobotomy.

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Been thinking about it for a few weeks. I live in a house right now with a few room-mates. I was going to take my furniture, bed, and other crap to my mom's house for storage. I don't need to take anything else to my girlfriends.

She already has a computer, nice living room furniture and a 54" or something TV. So I am set

 

[THE REAL DEAL]

not after only 2 months dude. i thought everything was fine and dandy with my girlfriend when we first moved in together and i waited almost a year for us to move in with each other. now in the past couple weeks, i've been considering getting my own place. i feel like the damn woman of the house. i cook, clean, dishes, trash, all that shit. but then again i can see why because im 23 and she's only 18.

you might wanna wait a while longer.

 

[DSMcrazy3]

I would wait alittle longer. That's great that you're having such a good time with her, but you don't see her as much as some people in other relationships, so that could be one reason. Another thing is that you've been dating for 2 months it's still semi-new(partly because you don't see each other that often.... I would wait until you're together atleast 6 months..

 

[GreddyGst]

DON'T DO IT. Think about it, you want to go out with your friends, she will be mad. You want to work on your car, she will be mad. You want to watch "THE GAME" at your place, she will be mad. Life as you know it will be a living hell. I'm about the same age as you, have a serious girlfriend, and would NEVER consider moving in with her. Its to early, and too many more good times to be had, that COULD be hindered by a live in girlfriend.

Not to mention, what if you end up breaking up. Its going to be a huge pain in the ass moving all your crap back out. And god forbid you get a lease together...

Just because you have bad relationships with womans doesn't mean he has to have them too...

My gf is the opposite of everything you said. She lets me go out with friends, work on my car, support what I do with my car, lets me watch any game I want (Today I watched the 49er game while she made me breakfast ) and we pretty much live together. I have zero complains. Like any relationship there's up and downs but I couldn't imagine my life without her.

So BacknBlack92ESi it depends on you, if life is better with her and you are a better person with her then I don't see why you shouldn't be living with her. Obviously something told you to move in with her, has to be for a good reason. There will be times when you will think of what's going on with you ex: pink sheets that you mentioned but thats nothing, not everything has to be about you in life specially if you have a significant other. You have to respect one another passions and sacrifice something small just to make her happy as she would do the same for you. Thats the only way it would work.

 

[GreddyGst]

im 23 and she's only 18.

Bingo, in those cases you have to wait because she isn't developed/responsible enough to even take care of herself

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Just because you have bad relationships with womans doesn't mean he has to have them too...

My gf is the opposite of everything you said. She lets me go out with friends, work on my car, support what I do with my car, lets me watch any game I want (Today I watched the 49er game while she made me breakfast ) and we pretty much live together. I have zero complains. Like any relationship there's up and downs but I couldn't imagine my life without her.

So BacknBlack92ESi it depends on you, if life is better with her and you are a better person with her then I don't see why you shouldn't be living with her. Obviously something told you to move in with her, has to be for a good reason. There will be times when you will think of what's going on with you ex: pink sheets that you mentioned but thats nothing, not everything has to be about you in life specially if you have a significant other. You have to respect one another passions and sacrifice something small just to make her happy as she would do the same for you. Thats the only way it would work.

Very well said. We are all the same. She let's me hang out with my friends and have fun. She makes me dinner, breakfast, she pays for lunch for most cases.

The sheet's was a joke. It is a very nice bed, and the sheets dont bother me, they are soft and warm. Ha.

I do everything I can to make her happy, and she knows it. And she returns the favor by treating me very well. ex: Making dinner and such. Goes hand and hand. Not all men get to exsperience such things.

 

[Thomas91169]

id say go for it. nobody can compare their relationship to yours, so nobody can say it will or wont work without actually knowing you first hand. if it works out it works out, if it doesnt, oh well.

 

[leet]

^^^^^^ The first half of what he said, if shes everything you want, then do it, not the lobotomy.

There is a huge amount of irony in my statement, unfortunately, I'm the only one who understands it.

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Werd.

I need another beer. Oh, and Chilli Cheese Frito's.

 

[leet]

Mmmmm. Beer.

Thank God my computer is right next to my fridge.

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Mmmmm. Beer.

Thank God my computer is right next to my fridge.

Lucky, mine is down stairs. But I brought up 2 extra Coors Long necks before I go to bed.

 

[leet]

Yeah, I have everything situated nice and close. Guitar and Fridge are all within 4 feet of my computer desk. My little slice of Heaven

Living with a woman really isn't that hard, man. Well, it can be, if they aren't very secure with themselves or their relationship. If they are, they are usually more than willing to compromise on just about anything, as long as it is discussed in a mature manner. It sounds as if you treat each other well, which is a better start than most. Just be reasonable and know when to fold.

Like I said, there are a lot more benefits than there are disadvantages It all depends on the relationship dynamic. Find a cool one and don't be an idiot.

Yeah. More beer. Oh, and +1 woman rep for me.

EDIT: Women have terrible taste in beer. FYI. So much for that rep.

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

Rock on. I need something like that setup.

I have talking to several my other older friends that are married. They have really cool wives and have no problem. But everyone is different. My girlfriend is very secure with herself and life in general. She is 23 and has her whole life on track, makes good money and has a very good head on her shoulders.

It's hard to come by a woman in her early 20's like that. And that is one thing I look for. If she can take care of her self with ease, that is a plus.

Oh, and I know about the advantages and the benefits
Can you ever have to much benefits?

 

[leet]

Tell me about it. Independance is a plus.. but somewhat of a rarity.

The things men do for love..

 

[THE REAL DEAL]

It's hard to come by a woman in her early 20's like that. And that is one thing I look for. If she can take care of her self with ease, that is a plus.

hell, it's hard to come by a woman in general like that.

 

[BacknBlack92ESi]

hell, it's hard to come by a woman in general like that.

I guess I am lucky.

I guess I shouldn't tell you how much she makes as a full time Nurse and what kind of car she drives. .