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Life really isn't fair

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Ludachris

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Nov 12, 2001
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As you get older you tend to become more aware of your mortality. Part of that is due to the fact that people your age start dying, which helps you understand that nothing is guaranteed in life.

Some friends of ours are going through this right now. We met them through our daughters' school. Our kids are good friends and hang out all the time. They have two daughters, just like us. The dad is going into hospice today as he continues to lose his battle with a rare form of bone cancer. He was diagnosed two years ago and was in remission for a short time before it came back. He's my age. I f***ing hate cancer. I know I'm not the only one who can't believe we haven't been able to find a way to cure it yet.

To anyone who is going through the hell and agony, or to all those who have gone through it, I'm raising a glass to you. Nobody deserves this. We're only here for a short time. Make the best of it.
 
A guy I was friends with all through school just died last week. He had a heart attack at the gym working out. I’m 42 and he was 41. I feel horrible for his wife and kids.
 
we just lost my fiances mom to lung cancer last year. it was a real tough battle and the last year without her has been terrible.
 
Had several instances the past 3 years. Our freind actually beat testicular cancer, but lost two different freinds parents to cancer, and my dad to a heart attack at 67.

Cancer is terrible tho. My roomy was an oncology nurse for 6 year till just about 3 months ago, said he couldn't do it anymore.

Sorry to hear about the rough time Chris, glass up to you..
 
I'm sorry to hear that. I too is struggling at the notion of my love ones disappearing one day. I promised myself to live my life to the fullest.
 
Life is precious! people just don't seem to get that in general, so many of my buddies want to do nothing but sit in the house and vegetate basically waiting (in my eyes) to die, I invite them to do things and they spend more time making an excuse not to go than it would have taken to just go? its insane to me and I walk away hoping that I see the day that they come to the realization of what they have given up, I recently made a post looking for anyone wanting to go to H2O at Ocean City this month because of people like I am talking about, this will be the second time in three months that I have been down there and I would go ten times a season if I could, even if I had to go alone, I love getting out and making memories and simply wont understand anyone who feels otherwise, if your healthy there is just no excuse to waste it.
 
The very word CANCER just gets to me, as I wonder why there hasn't been more advancements in cures. I always thought I would grow old with my little brother, we both worked for the same company, great guy, family man. He was diagnosed with stage 4 Colon Cancer in 2005. they told him 5 years, he made it 7 but it was a bad last year.
Went on a vacation with MY parents 2 years ago, just because I had time to. We came home early because dad had a back surgery scheduled. He came out of surgery and they said he had a large mass in his stomach. They gave him 2 months....he lasted exactly that, 2 months. Now my insurance says I have to wait 3 more years to have my checkup or they wont pay a dime. Scary stuff, but why have we not found more than just research to rid us of this terrible thing???
 
I can still remember back in 4th or 5th grade one of the students at my school was diagnosed with some sort of cancer. It must have been pretty bad because he was immediately taken out of school. His parents were pretty poor, so they couldn't afford l these treatments, or the insurance to help pay. I remember seeing little donation boxes they had setup at gas stations in town with his picture on it. It was pathetic but there was nothing anybody could do about it. I think it was only a few months later the principal came on the intercom to tell us that he had passed away..
 
The very word CANCER just gets to me, as I wonder why there hasn't been more advancements in cures. I always thought I would grow old with my little brother, we both worked for the same company, great guy, family man. He was diagnosed with stage 4 Colon Cancer in 2005. they told him 5 years, he made it 7 but it was a bad last year.
Went on a vacation with MY parents 2 years ago, just because I had time to. We came home early because dad had a back surgery scheduled. He came out of surgery and they said he had a large mass in his stomach. They gave him 2 months....he lasted exactly that, 2 months. Now my insurance says I have to wait 3 more years to have my checkup or they wont pay a dime. Scary stuff, but why have we not found more than just research to rid us of this terrible thing???
Oh geez Marty, I'm sorry to hear about that. This situation is hitting me pretty hard and it's not even a close family member.

Insurance - don't even get me started. Can't believe they won't cover an early exam/checkup. That's almost criminal.
 
Tbh, and not to start a conspiracy chain, but I think there isn't a cure for cancer due to the massive amount of money made on cancer medication currently. If it was cured, then pharmaceutical companies would lose mountains of money. It's a long debate topic, and I could be completely wrong, but it doesn't make sense to me.

Either way, no aspect of it is good, diagnosis or treatment. If I ever get it, I ain't getting chemo, seen it go down and it looks like a horrible way to spend the last few months.
 
Tbh, and not to start a conspiracy chain, but I think there isn't a cure for cancer due to the massive amount of money made on cancer medication currently. If it was cured, then pharmaceutical companies would lose mountains of money. It's a long debate topic, and I could be completely wrong, but it doesn't make sense to me.
I'm sure everyone has thought about that. We can only hope our fellow humans aren't that despicable. We know some are, but let's hope the good humans wouldn't allow that.
 
Lost a stepfather, uncle and father-in-law to cancer. Almost lost a brother to it @ 10 yo. It's an ugly way to go.
I've had three heart events myself and the last one they tell me would have been final if it had happened on the plane to the islands that I was going to take in two weeks.

I still remember the young man who didn't make it home to his family from the shootout a few years ago or the one fooling around on his motorcycle in the parking lot of a car meet who ran it into the side of a restaurant and died.

We grow up thinking we have all the time in the world but it's just not so and less so each day. Family, friends, and peers leave this place and one day we will too. Live the best you can everyday and remember this might be the last time you see or talk to anybody you meet, value it.
 
I'm sure everyone has thought about that. We can only hope our fellow humans aren't that despicable. We know some are, but let's hope the good humans wouldn't allow that.

I hope that everyday, but unfortunately I'm still surprised at some people's lack of human nature or caring. I'm not the nicest person and have been a real a-hole before, but I could never willingly let people suffer like that if there were a cure.
 
friends wife was just transferred to palliative care..we all know what that means. theyre near enough my age.
juat imagine how much faster research could proceed if our governments didnt divert billions to pointless endeavors just to satisfy early promises, everywhere in the world, and instead dedicated that money to help find cures.
besides, keeping people around longer means they pay more taxes so its win win LOL


at the same time, it makes me look back on how many chemicals ive had in direct contact with my skin working on this car over the past decade.. it may have been the thing that ends up killing me.
 
The pain and suffering came to end this morning - well, at least for him it did. And as the rest of the world goes on about their busy routines, a handful of lives will be deeply changed and scarred forever. It's a cold world. Time to reflect on our own family unit while we reach out and offer to help in any way we can. :(
 
Cancer is bad, sure their is a cure for it. Has been for ages but as mentioned people sill loose money and lots of it! Companys will do anything to keep money rolling in these days, anyway apart from that My wife had cancer a few years back and it was tough as I am not exactly great with emotions, when i was younger my great gran died and i laughed because thats how i knew to deal with it so her news just made me go dark and a bit reserved.

She did all her treatments and is now clear,
My nan also had cancer in her stomach and somehow managed to fight that but she is a strong lady.

I always said if i got it i would never cope! I just dont have that kinda fight in me.

The decent thing with the UK is the Cancer side is pretty highup and they tend to treat you as fast as possible once found. Its one of the most active parts of the health service thats almost decent apart crom private here which costs an arm and a leg normally!
 
when i was younger my great gran died and i laughed because thats how i knew to deal with it
Sadly, I did the same. That sounds messed up, but how else should a 9 year old deal with death?! I didn't truly understand what death was or meant.
 
We are all here for each member who needs support.

On the insurance side of things, if you have none in the US what happens? Do you stil get looked after? And is there different cover levels?
 
The pain and suffering came to end this morning - well, at least for him it did. And as the rest of the world goes on about their busy routines, a handful of lives will be deeply changed and scarred forever. It's a cold world. Time to reflect on our own family unit while we reach out and offer to help in any way we can. :(

Sorry to hear Chris. Prayers for you guys and all the kids.

And same goes to everyone else who went though something similar. I think I can speak for the whole community when I say, if anyone ever needed any help in a time like this, they should definitely reach out to our community here. I would help out however I could. And I know many others would as well.
 
Heaven gained an angel!
Celebrate their LIFE not their passing. Look back at all the good times and memories and let it out.
Condolences.
 
I’m with you on that. I hate cancer with a passion, too. I lost my mother to breast cancer back in 2009. This October will make it ten years since she passed. She was 58 back then and I was about to turn 27. Entirely too soon to lose a loved one especially a parent. She was in hospice most of her last year. She had always hoped of getting better and going back to work. Probably one of the sweetest people you’d ever met. Still love and miss her terribly to this day.

Both of my grandfathers passed away in the late 80s and my grandmothers passed in the late 90s. It’s saddening to look back how long they’ve been gone. I’m sure they’d be amazed at how advanced life as become.
 
Celebrate their LIFE not their passing. Look back at all the good times and memories and let it out.

I've heard it said that a person truly dies when they are no longer remembered.
 
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