Just jump the starter directly. Jump the big wire to tge little one. Its the main power to switch that you are jumping

it most likely wont crank because the small wire probably fell off of the sullinoid. this happened on my 2g and it wouldnt crank.

The starter relay is under the dash on the drivers side. You need to remove the knee pad dash piece to get to it. If the car is a manual, check that the clutch pedal switch pad is in place. This is done easily by looking for the clutch pedal switch under the dash. There should be a little rubber pad on the clutch pedal arm that will depress the switch. My car wouldn't start, and I found that the pad was missing. It was a cheap fix!