DSM_love_GST
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- Nov 30, 2010
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Arlington,
Washington
Okay so i know a lot of guys have gone through this. I am only posting to vent, get support, and advice.
So about 8 months ago, I found out i may have a son. I kept trying to take a DNA test with no prevail. Finally I got his mother to agree to take one. The only reason i could figure she didn't want to take one was, I was the only possible father (3 including me) was that i was the only one willing to help, and took care of him.
The results came back that i was the father, and when I told the mother that I did not want to be a couple, she decided to with hold my child from me. I have only known that i was the father for 2 months. She then began to use him as a bribe against me (for cigarettes, money, clothes, etc. She even asked for drugs for her mother and a car!) She smoked while pregnant, and in result gave him asthma. Supposedly it has since cleared up.
She lives at home, with her mother her just got out of jail for selling to an under cover, her father is a raging alcoholic and pot head who is always a jerk to me for no reason at all, and curses around my son who is 1yr. and 2 months old. When I ask him politely not to do so, he replies with, "He is my grandson, I will do what ever the **** I want". I tell him that he will only pick up on it and will in turn cause his daughter and I to get in trouble, he then replies again with "I will teach him when, and when not to use curse words. My reply is, "he is 1, he will not understand when and when not to use it". Keep in mind she use to stalk me ex. she would sit outside of my house til I came home, ask my roommates to let her in while i was asleep, and I would awake to her in my house or cuddling me.
This all happened because a friend thought it would be funny to call her over when I was blacked out drunk, she told me since I was in such a state, she thought she would take advantage of it. She continues to smoke around my son, while being pregnant yet again. She is trying to make my son believe that her boyfriend is the father, and trying to teach him to call him daddy.
I have multiple photos of child neglect ex. (dirt build up behind his ears, and unclean in the inside, Curdled milk in his bottles, smoking while holding him in just a diaper in the cold, rashes, which he has every time I see him, filthy, unwashed clothes etc.)Instead of comforting him when he cries, she pumps him up on medicine. She slanders my name, calling me ### etc. on her FB which I was told was illegal in the state of Wa. He never smells clean (stale cigarettes and filth) his skin is rough not baby smooth) I have multiple call logs and text with no replies.
I have filed a parenting plan for full custody, and attached I wrote a letter, stating that I have no intentions of doing so out of spite, anger, revenge, etc. Therefor I have no issues renegotiating a parenting plan, after she attends parenting classes and shows improvement. I am currently employed at Boeing, as an assembly mechanic for the 777.
She is on state aid and chooses not to work, and collects, welfare, WIC, and TANF, Which she sells to buy herself cigarettes and other things for herself, therefor I pay $400 for cs, $600 a month for a lawyer, $200 an hr. for a gal, and since she withholds his information from me to put him on my free amazing full benefits from work (which I see as neglect) I pay another $100 for state benefits. I am not on his birth certificate, and he does not have my last name, which she will not let me change. There is a lot more to this that I could add, but it would go on for forever.
I also have statements from friends of mine, and ones that were friends of hers. I miss my son, and Love him just as much. I would love input or advice on the Wa. state law, or just a simple, keep your head up, and don't give up. I have a place and the money to support my son, I just hope the State sees the same! Thank you for all the support in advance!
On the plus side, He shows a huge interest in cars! He also cant stand to not be in the same room as me, and cries when I leave, I can not say the same for his mother. I suppose that's what happens when you never hold him from day one, and instead of holding him and feeding him, you lay him down and prob a bottle in his mouth, instead of teaching him to hold it.
I love you Tod, and I hope to have and hold you soon!
His Eyes! He was diagnosed with megalocornea, Which I was told can pass 100 generations on the fathers side.
So about 8 months ago, I found out i may have a son. I kept trying to take a DNA test with no prevail. Finally I got his mother to agree to take one. The only reason i could figure she didn't want to take one was, I was the only possible father (3 including me) was that i was the only one willing to help, and took care of him.
The results came back that i was the father, and when I told the mother that I did not want to be a couple, she decided to with hold my child from me. I have only known that i was the father for 2 months. She then began to use him as a bribe against me (for cigarettes, money, clothes, etc. She even asked for drugs for her mother and a car!) She smoked while pregnant, and in result gave him asthma. Supposedly it has since cleared up.
She lives at home, with her mother her just got out of jail for selling to an under cover, her father is a raging alcoholic and pot head who is always a jerk to me for no reason at all, and curses around my son who is 1yr. and 2 months old. When I ask him politely not to do so, he replies with, "He is my grandson, I will do what ever the **** I want". I tell him that he will only pick up on it and will in turn cause his daughter and I to get in trouble, he then replies again with "I will teach him when, and when not to use curse words. My reply is, "he is 1, he will not understand when and when not to use it". Keep in mind she use to stalk me ex. she would sit outside of my house til I came home, ask my roommates to let her in while i was asleep, and I would awake to her in my house or cuddling me.
This all happened because a friend thought it would be funny to call her over when I was blacked out drunk, she told me since I was in such a state, she thought she would take advantage of it. She continues to smoke around my son, while being pregnant yet again. She is trying to make my son believe that her boyfriend is the father, and trying to teach him to call him daddy.
I have multiple photos of child neglect ex. (dirt build up behind his ears, and unclean in the inside, Curdled milk in his bottles, smoking while holding him in just a diaper in the cold, rashes, which he has every time I see him, filthy, unwashed clothes etc.)Instead of comforting him when he cries, she pumps him up on medicine. She slanders my name, calling me ### etc. on her FB which I was told was illegal in the state of Wa. He never smells clean (stale cigarettes and filth) his skin is rough not baby smooth) I have multiple call logs and text with no replies.
I have filed a parenting plan for full custody, and attached I wrote a letter, stating that I have no intentions of doing so out of spite, anger, revenge, etc. Therefor I have no issues renegotiating a parenting plan, after she attends parenting classes and shows improvement. I am currently employed at Boeing, as an assembly mechanic for the 777.
She is on state aid and chooses not to work, and collects, welfare, WIC, and TANF, Which she sells to buy herself cigarettes and other things for herself, therefor I pay $400 for cs, $600 a month for a lawyer, $200 an hr. for a gal, and since she withholds his information from me to put him on my free amazing full benefits from work (which I see as neglect) I pay another $100 for state benefits. I am not on his birth certificate, and he does not have my last name, which she will not let me change. There is a lot more to this that I could add, but it would go on for forever.
I also have statements from friends of mine, and ones that were friends of hers. I miss my son, and Love him just as much. I would love input or advice on the Wa. state law, or just a simple, keep your head up, and don't give up. I have a place and the money to support my son, I just hope the State sees the same! Thank you for all the support in advance!
On the plus side, He shows a huge interest in cars! He also cant stand to not be in the same room as me, and cries when I leave, I can not say the same for his mother. I suppose that's what happens when you never hold him from day one, and instead of holding him and feeding him, you lay him down and prob a bottle in his mouth, instead of teaching him to hold it.
I love you Tod, and I hope to have and hold you soon!
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His Eyes! He was diagnosed with megalocornea, Which I was told can pass 100 generations on the fathers side.
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